It’s Not About Me.
Four simple words that will simplify your life, clear your mind and amplify your success.
I didn’t know it at the time, but my passion for servant leadership started early. It was my Grandmother Elsie “The Colonel” Curtis, who gave me these four simple words that have guided my life since. I have come to recognize that Elsie’s wisdom was really a conversation about Servant Leadership. You can learn more about the force of nature that was Elsie here.
Powerful, freeing and true. Taking ‘me’ out of just about every equation has been the best thing I have done for my family, community and business. And me. When I am focused on the needs of others, I am happier, can easily ignore that inner voice telling me I’m not good enough, and I don’t get caught up with my day-to-day. Servant leadership has been fundamental to any success, accomplishment and joy I have in my life. I believe it can be the same for yours.
It’s Not About Me will…
Simplify Your Life
When it’s not about me, those small little things that rub you the wrong way and take over your energy and joy just don’t do that anymore. That car that cut you off on the way to work this morning? That’s not about me. That’s about someone who is worried about the repercussions of being late for work…again. The email from your colleague that has you wondering what you did to bug her? That’s not about me. That’s about a mom who is worried about a sick child and doesn’t have the time today for niceties. As a servant leader, I can’t and won’t let the stress or negative energy of others knock me off my course. I can sympathize with and support but I won’t let that energy consume my day.
Clear Your Mind
When it’s not about me and I am focused on meeting the needs of others, there is no room for that little voice inside my head telling me I am not good enough, constantly questioning my skills or no one cares. As a servant leader my time, energy and focus fill all the capacity in my head and there is very little room for doubt or that nagging voice. My energy isn’t being consumed by doubt: instead, it is being fueled by a sense of purpose and accomplishment. This is the real magic of Servant leadership: it is not only good for those we are serving but it is also the best way we can look after our own mental health and wellbeing.
Amplify Your Success
When it’s not about me and I am focused on the success of others, more good things start to happen in my life. Rather than just measuring my own success and accomplishment (which is important of course) I am motivated to see more success in those around me. Their success becomes my success! When I share support, encouragement and high expectations with others, I get that support, encouragement and high expectations back to the power of 10. My ultimate success as a leader is seeing others grow their own servant leadership skills. Encouraging others to make it ‘not about them’ is the successful transformation from being a leader to inspiring leadership in others.
The goal of many leaders is to get people to think more highly of the leader. The goal of a great leader is to help people think more highly of themselves.
~J. Carla Nortcutt
If you want to lift yourself up, lift up someone else.
~ Booker Washington
Before you are a leader, success is all about growing yourself. When you become a leader, success is all about growing others.
~ Jack Welch